Bride's Bucket List #5: Spend Some Alone Time
Question: Since your engagement (congratulations, by the way!) how much time have you spent alone? Give yourself an honest answer. It’s been a world-wind of events since you got the ring; engagement parties, celebrations with friends, and family visits with the new fiancé. Add to the schedule the wedding planning, fittings with your bridal party, and meetings with caterers, you’ll find things can get quite busy after you’ve said, “Yes”.
Then there’s your loving fiancé who you can’t wait to marry. You’re both looking for the perfect place together, you may both be attending pre-wedding counselling or maybe you both live together already. Either way, you’re seeing your fiancé quite a lot. When was the last time you took a day or two to yourself? There’s nothing wrong with a little “you time”.
According to an article by psychologists Sherrie Bourg Carter in Psychology Today, there are 6 healthy benefits to spending some time alone. Carter insists that spending time alone:
- Allows you to reboot your brain and unwind.
- Helps to improve concentration and increase productivity.
- Give you an opportunity to discover yourself and find your own voice.
- Provides time for you to think deeply.
- Helps you work through problems more effectively.
- Enhances the quality of your relationships with others.
As a soon-to-be bride, spending time alone gives you a chance to focus and de-stress while also helping you to appreciate the time you spend with your fiancé.
If you’re hard pressed for quality time leading up to your wedding date, you can sneak in some alone time with an early morning yoga class or an hour at a coffee shop after work. If you have a bit more time, take a weekend and make a long drive to a place you’ve been meaning to go or visit that spa you never got around to trying. Your fiancé will benefit from a few days alone as well; he’ll definitely miss you more!